We all want to be loved, seen, heard, and respected. Mostly, we try to gain these things from others, investing a lot of energy into relationships. If we’re not in love with someone, we dream about it. If we are, and it seems everything isn’t perfect, we wonder where that love is, where our perfect “half” is. Quietly, we ask questions about soulmates, what they truly are, and if they really exist…
Today, we all have access to texts about everything and anything, and honestly, because of this information overload, I often find myself searching for my internal feeling about a subject. Not because I think I’m incredibly wise or knowledgeable, quite the opposite—I realize how little we know and how everything we think is true can collapse like a house of cards in the next moment. Yet, even in this realization, I allow myself to have an opinion and simultaneously allow myself to be wrong.
Back to the beginning—do soulmates exist? Yes, I believe there are souls especially close to us, with whom we connect on a deeper, timeless level that cannot be hidden or denied. Anyone with a modicum of awareness can recognize this. With such souls, we understand each other without much discussion; with such a soul, we always feel love regardless of circumstances, gender, cultural, or other differences. A soulmate can be a friend, a child, a partner… a soulmate isn’t only someone we engage in a romantic relationship with, living out that cinematic “you complete me” scenario. Deep down, I don’t believe anyone can fill us, that someone is our other half, at least not in that sense. I’ve seen the emptiness in people too many times and their desire and need for someone to appear to fill it. The only thing that can fill that void is love—loving oneself. That void can be filled with light, joy, peace, a sense of being connected to life, knowing that we are never alone. God can fill that void if we allow Him. He/She is always everywhere. He/She loves us unconditionally, without expectations or judgment—God is Love.
On the other hand… I don’t want to dismiss the emotional aspect of our beings; we’re here to integrate the mental, physical, emotional, and energetic into wholeness. That’s why I believe that recognizing a soulmate can make us feel like that person completes us in some way because they help us feel everything more intensely—when we love, especially when we’re in love, we open up like soft, fragrant flowers in the breeze, surrendering to love without thinking. In surrender, we have the opportunity to know ourselves, especially those hidden parts of us no one taught us to nurture because of the many rules in this world, too many “don’ts.” It’s no wonder that when a soul so close appears, who feels and “sees” us so easily, we awaken, spread our wings, and grow on the wave of love that heals wounds and strengthens our sense of self-worth. Love always heals, and love at the level of “I feel you with every fiber of my being” not only heals us but slowly and patiently blows away the layers of dust that have dulled the glow of our souls. If we allow ourselves in such love to discard fears and permit ultimate vulnerability and authenticity, I believe being in such a relationship is like being married to God who is Love. As Angels told me: “In complete surrender to another human being, you can find the key to complete surrender to life, to God. You call this enlightenment, although that word is overrated.”
They also added this: “There is never any mistake in love. In love that is sacred, there is no separation. In such love, you don’t differentiate between one or the other; you feel connection and complete closeness.”
We all deserve love, deserve to find ourselves, to recognize ourselves as Love. Do we all have the opportunity to realize this by holding hands with a soulmate? I don’t know, but I know that the chance to have ourselves in Love is always there, every day, again and again. That’s why it’s crucial not to wait for Love to happen to us but to allow ourselves to BE Love.
Ultimately, there is no relationship that is wrong for us. In every relationship, we can find ourselves if we allow it. It doesn’t matter if it lasts a lifetime or just five minutes. Similarly, I believe that love is not a struggle and that if we allow it, we can create a relationship that isn’t a playground for personal growth but is our sacred space, our refuge where we are supported by trust and love, a place where our wings are spread wide because someone reminds us of who we are, because someone’s touch of love reminds us of Love. Can we have this only with a soulmate or perhaps even a twin flame—I don’t know… Because, in the end, what do we truly know about anything?
With love,
